There are various methods to make sex joyful for partners, and there are also different types of sex.
Instead of assuming your spouse isn't excellent in bed, you and your partner could experiment with several styles of sex to see which one you like.
Vaginal sex, Oral sex, Anal sex, and so on are all forms of sex.
Oral intercourse is enjoyed by the majority of couples, while some are afraid of sucking on their partner's genital organs, this is termed “Osaphobia”.
What is Osaphabia?
Osaphobia according to the Urban dictionary is a Phobia of giving/receiving head oral sex for fear of attracting an STD being rejected or having your teeth touch the genitalia. For more understanding, Osaphobia is a strong fear of having one's sexual organs orally stimulated i.e the inability/fear of giving your partner head/sucking your partner’s sexual organ.
Causes of Osaphobia
Sexually Transmitted Infection: You don't know whether or not your partner has contracted any illness because of several former sex partners who are not trusted, which is the major basis for Osaphobia, the fear of being infected (Sexually Transmitted Infection).
A Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) is spread from one sexual partner to the next through the exchange of bodily fluids, such as saliva and sperm, as well as oral fluids.
Past experience: It's possible that one or both partners have had a bad experience with oral sex in the past and are unwilling to try it again. Something that you don't enjoy is not going to make you want to try it again. Osaphobia may be triggered by a traumatic event in the past.
Self-esteem: Osaphobia is caused by a lack of self-esteem and telling someone that this is a contributing factor may sound strange, but it is true. Some people, particularly women, lack the courage to begin on their own; as a result, they wait for their partner to initiate contact or to begin the conversation.
Irritation with your sexual partner: Irritation with a certain partner can come in many forms, including not being able to have sex with your partner, not being able to have sex with your partner, or not being able to have sex with your spouse.
Absence of Information: Most couples don’t even have an idea that there is oral sex and would not love to try it since they are used to normal vaginal sex.
The risk associated with Oral Sex
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There are many risks involved in oral sex that can cause Osaphobia, Oral sex is considered to be unsafe by many medical experts also. Most people think that the fact that oral sex does not result in pregnancy makes it "safer sex" in the absence of a condom than genital sex, but the risk of contracting or transferring sexually transmitted diseases remains the same (STIs). If you're engaging in oral intercourse, you can easily get in contact with genital fluids which can put you at risk for a range of sexually transmitted infections.
It is easy to get Sexually Transmitted Infection during oral sex because:
During oral sex, you are exposed to genital fluids which are the main ways STIs are transferred from one partner to another.
It appears that you are not taking any precautions to protect yourself.
The pressure that oral sex puts on a couple's relationship is another potential downside. Having oral sex might be nerve-wracking for one party since they're worried about how their other would perceive them. In some cases, oral sex might give the impression that one party is in charge of the other. All of these issues need to be addressed prior to engaging in oral sex.
Sexually transmitted illnesses can be linked to oral sex (STIs). The following are a few of the most common:
HIV/AIDS, chlamydia, gonorrhea, hepatitis B, and hep C
These sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are all caused by viruses or bacteria and can be spread through contact with contaminated bodily fluids, such as sperm, blood, fluid, saliva, or fluids from the vagina. With oral intercourse comes the danger of developing certain diseases.
Any wound, cut, or ulcer that comes into direct contact with infected secretions could get infected with the STI.
Hepatitis A is a parasitic infection of the gastrointestinal tract that can be contracted by coming into touch with infected feces. Even if your partner's anus appears clean after oral intercourse, you could catch the disease by licking or touching it.
People regularly participate in both oral and anal intercourse at the same time, making it difficult to identify if an HIV-positive individual is transmitting the virus during oral sex, according to specialists. People with STIs, such as open sores in their mouths or vaginal or penile tissue that has been exposed to menstrual blood, are more susceptible to contracting HIV.
Syphilis is another sexually transmitted infection that can be contracted during anal sex, You can get syphilis by having sex with someone who has a syphilis sore, whether it's vaginally, anally, or orally. Sores on the penis, vagina, anus, rectum, or lips and mouth of your partner are all possible causes of this. It can be fatal if left untreated, but it can be cured with the right treatment.
Bacteria that cause Shigella gastroenteritis spreads through contact with excrement from infected animals. This disease can be transmitted by sexual contact, especially oral and oro-anal encounters. It is especially dangerous for males who have had intercourse with other men.
Warts or HPV (human papillomavirus)
Males and females alike are at risk from the widely disseminated HPV virus. It can be passed from sex partners via vaginal or oral sex. The more the number of partners you have, the greater your risk of contracting
Cervical cancer has been related to HPV, a virus. However, HPV can cause a range of other cancers, including throat and mouth cancers, as well as cancers of various regions of the genital organs, as well as other severe conditions. There is no cure for genital warts, yet they are exceedingly common. They can be treated with medication or surgery. HPV does not create any symptoms.
In the event that you suspect that you have HPV or genital warts, see your doctor immediately.
When it comes to sexually transmitted infections (STIs), oral herpes and genital herpes are two of the most common forms. If you don't use a condom when having oral intercourse, you can contract either type of herpes.
Your genitals might be infected by oral herpes if your sex partner has cold sores on their lips. If you make oral contact with someone who has herpes blisters on their genitals, you run the risk of contracting the disease yourself.
Pubic lice are also known as "crabs," pubic lice are tiny insects that dwell in the pubic area and eat blood. Irritation can result from their use. Lice in the pubic hair spread rapidly during sexual contact.
Osaphobia Related Symptoms
People with Osaphobia are scared of any form of oral intercourse, even if it's just a kiss.
Because of their fear of oral sex, they get nervous. If you insist on having oral sex with them, be prepared to be killed if they refuse. Some people may show symptoms of panic, such as:
- The erection of certain men may be weakened
- Breathing more deeply
- Shivering and Sweating
- Irregular heartbeats
- Heats from nowhere: some of the females may have to leave the house because of the heat.
Treatment of Osaphobia
Osaphobia, like many other phobias, is difficult to overcome. Some of those who are affected by it aren't even aware that they have a problem large enough to justify seeking expert assistance.
Depending on the underlying problem, sex therapists apply a variety of techniques.
Counseling both couples to emphasize the importance of:
- Good oral and genital hygiene is essential.
- Having medical tests performed to rule out the presence of any sexually transmitted diseases